Lola Indigo: “They always call me chubby”
ELLE Talks All In One: Liderazgo femenino
“Thinness is not normal for me. Fortunately, now there are many more diverse bodies, there is more variety: Nathy Peluso, Rosalía and I are already normative bodies, even if there are still have people who keep calling me chubby”explains the singer Lola Indigo how he became one of the referents of the body positive, the movement of acceptance of one’s own body and the theme of the round table SHE SPEAKS. BODY POSITIVE, produced by ELLE in collaboration with CaixaBank in the All In One space in Madrid. Lola, singer, dancer and composer who has just received the second gold disc for her song toy story, She also explained that the empowerment talk she throws into her songs is something that comes naturally to her: “I always say that I don’t make feminist songs, but that I am a feminist who makes songs.”
His thoughts were followed by others from the psychologist, writer and speaker specializing in self-esteem, emotional dependency and toxic relationships, Silvia Congost. For author books like Automatic self-esteem, if it hurts it ain’t love or most recent toxic people, this movement “promotes the acceptance of the body with the characteristics of each one. Often we have problems because we reject parts of our body that cannot be changed. And to reject something given to you is to reject yourself. And when you reject yourself, you don’t value yourself,” he says.
The conversation revolved around various topics, such as the judgment that many women have on their own appearance, the canons of beauty and the resulting lack of self-esteem or fear. This is why the three experts of this movement propose a new look at ourselves based on the acceptance of our own body and avoiding toxic thoughts that end up undermining our confidence and making us suffer trying to reach canons of inaccessible beauty.
For Congost, it is extremely important to continue to nurture diverse references, emphasizing the value of the experiences of others. But with some nuance, “Sometimes promoting victimization also fuels morbidity. Seeing that the other is suffering makes us feel that we are not so bad, but it does not bring us anything”, and underlined the need that, when we feel bad, the best thing is to “ask for help”.
For its part, Cristina Barous, coach and expert in nutrition, mindful eating and healthy habitss, highlighted “the change of perspective” as the axis of this movement. “The main thing is to look at yourself and take care of yourself with love, and of yourself, not according to the criteria of the other.” And, from her position as a musical icon, Lola Indigo issued a warning to Internet users in this regard: “Social networks have their danger. We receive too many stimuli in a short time and I don’t know if, for example, the adolescent brain is ready to process this. Mine, at his age, was certainly not”, admits this woman trained in the severe discipline of dance. “Let’s send a message to the youngest: not everything is luxury and perfection.”
In this line, Cristina Barrous coined the French term “false friends” – words that seem to be one thing and then mean the opposite – and gave a descriptive example: “The word watermelon is associated with a healthy food and yet it “is very indigestible. Social networks are fabulous, but they also have their trap: the algorithm ends up full of things that only feed your thoughts”.
“The way we eat goes hand in hand with mental health”, All three speakers agreed, although the psychologist added, in addition, that toxic thoughts – the ones we say to ourselves – also affect our self-esteem: “The bad things we says to ourselves, we would not say them to another person because we would consider it an abuse”, analyzes Congost. “We must re-educate our inner voice, work and build self-esteem and gratitude, accept ourselves more easily. On this is based the body positive. It consists, in essence, of improving self-esteem.”
Cristina Barrous, also an expert in eat mindfully He encouraged the public to “eat in the moment, in a good mood, with gratitude and without screens. Eating with anxiety or fear increases the production of cortisol, the stress hormone”, he explains.
The need to work on self-esteem often involves seeking professional help when needed, the three guests insisted. “No one is alone”, remembers Lola Índigo, “I always convey this message in my concerts, and the importance of surrounding yourself with people who love you, with a healthy environment”.
For them the body positive This does not mean not taking care of yourself, as some people misunderstand. Cristina Barrous clarified: “We measure health with an instrument that is not valid. There are healthy bodies in size 38 and 46. Health is not measured by size”. And he stressed the need to pay more attention to the microbiota or psychobiotics, which “establish a direct link between what we eat and our state of mind”.
The roundtable ended with advice and positive messages: “I was the black sheep, the weirdo of my city”, confessed Indigo, who then recounted with emotion the number of times that some of his followers confessed that his example had changed. “But I’m not suggesting that everyone dedicate themselves to music, but rather that they find their way and dedicate themselves to what makes them happy. Let them be themselves”, she concluded proudly.
To be grateful, to speak naturally about problems or to understand food in a conscious and healthy way are some of the advice given by the three guests at the end of the day, which brought together a hundred guests with whom they then continued the conversation at sunset on the fabulous terrace of CaixaBank in the center of Madrid and celebrate a very body positive.
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